What does it mean to be perfect? To me, Perfect is what
makes you happy.
Have you ever felt like you are too tired of trying to be
perfect? The Perfect Mom, Wife, Son, Co-worker,
boss…etc.
Well, I watched a movie tonight about a woman that reaches perfection
with the perfect house, clothes, make-up, hair, boyfriend, job…but in the end,
she realizes it wasn’t what she wanted. Watching her go through that, made me
realized that I was doing the same thing. I had this idea of what I thought it
meant to be perfect. Clean house, extra make-up, non-frizzy hair, and slimming
outfit. My goals were always focused
around these things and in a way, I felt like for me to reach my goal of being “Perfect”
I had to have these things, even if it made me unhappy. And I realized I am unhappy.
This is what I've learned.
Perfection a choice.
You can choose to wake up 2 hours before the sun rises to
make sure that your hair and house is perfect before you see your man or start
your day. You can make sure your make up is just right and not a spot missing
before leaving the house…Or you can choose to not do it. Let it go. Either one
is the correct choice if it makes you happy and love yourself.
Isn’t that really our goal here, to be happy and when we are
truly happy, that means we have a self-loving for yourself, and who you are.
But let’s get back to what perfection is. How many times have you heard that Perfection
= Flawless or Graceful. I have about a
thousand times. Do you know what the dictionaries
definition is? Means “having all the desirable
elements, qualities or characteristics; as good as possible.”
“Having the desirable qualities.” Now ask yourself, who’s the one that is defining
what is “desirable”. The world? Your fiancé?
Your friends? Your co-workers? The world
may define that only sleek, shiny, full hair is desirable, or a dress size 2.
But don’t let the world choose for you.
YOU are the one that gets to choose what is desirable for your
perfection, for you to be best possible you.
Keep in mind, don’t be afraid to show your RAW self. How many times do we filter, prepare or plan
out our thoughts, or actions so we will seem perfect. Am I the only person that goes through a whole
conversation in my head of what one person will say, and then what I will say,
or should say to make sure the conversation will be perfect?
Why not let your weird, wonderful, raw self shine through? Now don’t get crazy on me, because some
things do need a filter, especially in a professional setting, or when words
might be purposefully hurtful. That’s
not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about not always having to say the “perfect”
thing or be flawless all the time. We are human, and full of flaws. It doesn’t
mean that you can’t have goals to be perfect for you. The best possible you = the
happiest possible you = perfection.
If you have the goals to be thin, to have flawless make up,
or always best dressed that is wonderful.
If that makes you truly, deep in your bones happy, then do it. But if you feel like that is the definition
of perfection, and all women should strive for it…you are wrong.
Your PERFECTION is personal. It is what you desire in
yourself. If that means getting 8 hours of sleep or taking 1 hour each day for
yourself. That is your perfection. If that
means making it to work on time, or looking up and walking with confidence, instead
of head down. That is your perfection. If that means speaking up more, or smiling,
or laughing more. Whatever it is, That is perfection. And remember, nothing is more beautiful than a
happy, self-loving woman.
What is your perfection?
